Tuesday, October 04, 2005

I was browsing thru some random friendster profiles when I saw a 19 year old girl who had just given birth to a baby girl on Sept 8th. I just thought that everyone's fate is really different. One different step leads to a complete contrastive destiny. Although it is not my first time seeing teenage mothers, but knowing one that is actually a friend of my friend, and seeing the way she type her profile in friendster makes me sad, for example

Schs: xInmin PrI Skool & SeRaNg0oN GaRdEn SeC
Hobbies and Interests:(*-_-*)Look after My little Baby gal(*-_-*) muack
Favorite Books:**-----**I Dun Realli Read Lehs**-----**

I mean, typing like that is childish, not that I despise it, I did that typing until I was in jc. I tyPe LiKe thT whEn I aM iN a BoLiaO mooD too. I am not trying to criticise that way of typing. But, it made me realise that a child is having another child. Its a rather saddening thought.

She's has led 19 years of life. She is like us.Is that really what she want to have in life? Doesn't she have dreams to pursue like the rest of us here? Getting our degrees, proceed on the masters, travel around the world, getting that dream job of ours. Yes i know i know, I should not think that what is best for me will be best for her. Maybe her dream all along was to get married at a very early age and be a grandmother by 45. I found out that she actually held her wedding in May, meaning that she must have a bulging stomach when she wore her evening gown.

No i do not despise her at all. In fact, I admire her for bravery and her selflessness to give up her dreams. After thinking deeply(i really did), I think she must have dreams, just that she's has given them up for that little life. She must be having a hard time now. Poor thing

I did a little survey on my own and 10 out of 10 girls tell me that they will abort it, simply because they had not yet achieved what they had in life, have no ability to feed another person and have no courage to face what the society has in store for them. Yes, all the parties surveyed are all high flyers and have a bright future(at least a degree) waiting for them. So do i wrestle with the thought that those that are more highly educated have less morality than people(usually in ITE or less) that choose to bring that innocent life to earth, or is it that there is much more at stake for those high flyers? More education = more self centered? Actually all teenagers are self centered to a certain extent. I think it is the latter where there are more at stake. But still, there is much to be argued about. Another stinky old dilemma.

Some girls abort babies not only because they have to give up their future, but also because they have unsupportive, responsibility shirking partners. Let's just say she suspects being pregnant and she shares this with her partner, only to be on the receiving end of selfish comments like

'' What?! Don't scare me, I still want to study one lo. I want to go university one leh ''
'' My mum will kill me! ''

Do note that everything he said is bout HIM, not her.
There will be a long line of blabbering, and not a word of concern to that girl's predicament. I mean like, who's worse? Who's going to endure 9 months of pregnancy and then after that gets her birth canal stretched till so loose. If there is really confirmed pregnancy, he will tell her to abort it or simply disappear from her life. Seriously, if something happened to a girl like that, I will advise her to abort it. Do not contribute the bastardry cowardry father's genes to the human gene pool. It will simply harm the human population as well.

I do know a friend of my sister that got so fed up with her boyfriend cos he keeps on asking her whether she's gotten her menses everyday for 2 weeks that she threw her used pad(kept in a transparent ziplock bag) at him in the public after her menses came. He kept on asking because he was worried about his own ass, not that girl's situation.

But if the partner supports the girl, it is a different matter altogether. At the very least, she will not feel that helpless. When a teenage girl is pregnant, helplessness in capital letters is really the word to describe what she feels. One have to be really in the situation to know how it feels like. Even if the guy do not want that baby, at least he was providing emotional support, which is really very important. I am glad for that 19 year old girl because her husband was willing to take up responsibility. She's a lucky girl in that sense.

I wonder if I was the girl(such that my boyfriend is able to be responsible), whether I would keep the child. Actually, I think I would. But in the first place, I do not approve of teenage pre marital sex simply because having sex before the age of 20 triples chances of getting cervical cancer. But lets say if I was that girl, with much more at stake, my career my bond,blah blah, I would really keep the child. Don't ask me why, because being a hopeless romantic, I will give u really corny(but true) answers such like I kept the child because I love the man who's the father of the child, blah blah.

Abortion is really scary too. Everyone watched that infamous video ''Silent screams" i believe it is called. One must be really cruel to subject that sort of treatment to flesh belonging to you. To quote wangwang, she says that it is cruel because the child's soul finally has the chance to be reborn, after queuing for so long at Guan Yin Mah's place, den you make him/her have to requeue again.

After so much blabbering, actually there's no actual conclusion. Now you know why my gp gotten b4 right.