Monday, August 08, 2005
I am sick this few days because I ate 2 packets of M&M at midnight..ya I know its fatty and unhealthy.I am paying the price of it now.I sound like a total innocent and gentle girl now cos I got no voice now.Somemore I bin chay chay(face green green).So everyone was nice to me today.This is because my throat got inflammation,together with increasing mucus in my blocked nose.Mucus is excessive lubricant in your windpipe,due to inflammation as well.Thus I cannot vibrate my voicebox using my voicecords.Without vibration of my voicebox,there are only small vibrations passed out to the air.With only soundwaves with small amplitude,the air molecules surrounding the throat there cannot vibrate as much creating a strong soundwave.Without a strong soundwave,energy is lost quickly to the surroundings before it can be transmitted to a further distance.Hence, a weak voice is produced.
The above paragraph was produced due to occupational hazard as a tuition teacher with 14 students.Yep,the last time I counted,it was 14.
Okie I suddenly thought of the issue of marriage today.Let me give my few rupiah worth on this issue.
I suppose everyone of you here are used to having the thought that going into marriage when it is of suitable age.Well well well, I suppose I harboured that dream when I was young too.Well snap out of it!! You young gullible fools!!
Marriage is basically a tomb for love.When I think of marriage,I can only think of the ending as divorce.The best part of marriage will therefore be the alimony.
Ok lets go down to the basics first.Why in the first place would you think of going into marriage?Is it because that you want to spend your life with this person,whom you presumably claim to love?
Spending your life with another person could mean some huge compromising to do.Are you sure you do not mind if your spouse
1) Dig his nose if front of you and then flick the diggings at you with a accomplished smile
2) Fart in bed with blanket on and ask you to breathe in deeply
3) Have really smelly feet and points it at you every now and then
4) Go toilet never wash hand then come and touch you
5) All the other disgusting things which you personally cannot stand
I actually heard of one sad case where the husband decides to divorce his wife because he cannot stand her keeping leftover food in the fridge.It is a real story.It is scary right.. but it actually reminds us how dreadful it can be if someone's personal habits is different from urs.
It is difficult to find someone whom you have chemistry with and also have the same personal habits as you do.It is also difficult to compromise especially when the person had this habit for all her life..
Lets say you enjoy farting in bed.You have done it for like 25 years of your life and it gives you great joy and satisfaction when you can hear ur fart and smell it all over the little space under the blanket.If you do not do it once in the morning,you will feel incomplete and unhappy for the rest of the day.Lets say ur spouse cannot stand smelling your fart.But it is a habit you cannot live without.Are you very positive that you can kick that habit for him?Are you very positive that you can give up your joy and satisfaction of farting in bed for him? Or if you cannot, you would ask him to bear with it.In whatever situation,either party have to compromise.Can love really overcome your personal habits?I believe in cases,either party will compromise grudgingly in the name of love.But but but,when some couple's tiffs ensue,I am sure the party who had compromise will bring the habit up..like this
''Wahlau can't you give in abit.I give to you so many times!!Even when you fart in bed every morning and ask me to smell I also bear with it!"
The situation is worse if your significant other decides to declare this loudly in public.
Evidently,the compromise was made unwillingly.So,living together and being in love is really a different case altogether.
Ok personal habits aside.Lets talk about love.People claim to marry for love.Marriage is for a lifetime.Can you love that person unconditionally for 50 years of your life?Goodness,you do not even know what you will become in 10 years time,but you can promise that you are able to love a certain person for 50 years?It is not logical right..
And the most annoying thing is,most people claim that their love for a person had faded because the person had changed,or because situations and needs had changed.Then why in the first place,would you make that vow in ROM?Broken vows hurt more than not making a promise at all,because with a promise comes expectations,and with expectations come failure to meet with them,with failure comes sadness.
Marriage is not something where you can be insured against.Let's say after 2 years in the marriage you find that the person is actually not suitable for you.Because of that sense of responsibility you feel as though it is not correct to leave your wife.But your love had already turn to responsibility.Then you not happy she not happy..drag until like for 7 years then divorce.Can the wife buy insurance for the past 7 years spent in the marriage?What about her broken heart,her expectations and her youth?All gone.
Well,some people think that it is time to propose marriage when they can picture having children with that person
Ok..the first time you hear it,you think it is romantic.But think again! Have children den wad?End of story?!Can propose already?Its scary because..
The guy actually propose marriage NOT thinking of
1) How he can take it when you turn into one naggy yellow face hag
2) How he can take it when you become as fat as his mother
3) How he can take it if you have so many wrinkles in your face that the gaps between wrinkles can trap dust due to over exhaustion from having kids.
Then,not prepared to take in all the biological changes that his wife could undergo,he feels that he cannot love his wife anymore due to the above reasons.Then he go seek other affairs with some china or vietnam woman.Isn't it ironic when he in the first place wanted children?And he cannot take it when you are old and haggard from having children.
Den he ditches you with 3 children tagging along.He leaves you with 3 children that reminds you of a failed marriage.you cannot achieve what you want in life and slogs hard to feed the 3 children,which in the end become chao ah beng and chao ah lian and break your heart..No logic right..might as well get dogs,ok la if you wan something that lives longer,get a turtle.
I beg your pardon,but u think I am anti marriage?Not true.I do believe in the sanctity of marriage.I respect marriage till the extent that I will not allow marriage to take place if there is any chance tht it should fail.Marriage is for a lifetime,thus it is sacred.I am just skeptical about the people that want to get married without knowing what they are in for,which is why there are so many divorce cases nowadays.Some people get married because they want to have status,security and kids,not realising that these could be the stuff that will be binding them towards true happiness later on in life.
No point stick yourself to another person when you are not sure if you can confirm guarantee chop you can love that person for 50 years.50 years very long one lo.Its not only about your own feelings.Yes,perhaps you could confirm guarantee chop you can love that person for 50 years,but can you say the same for your partner?How do you know when you can really trust that person?So complicated..wahlau muz consider so much stuff..headache la.I unicellular only leh..no brain to think.
Thus,I would gladly choose singlehood or cohabiting..
because I know should my partner fart in bed and ask me to breathe deeply,I can ask him to go eat shit,pack my bags and run at a speed of 1000km/hr.
Disclaimer:
The above was made by someone who have only extreme views.To many people who know her,she is a very simple minded homosapien that can only feel extremely this,or extremely that.Never in the middle.She's not even coherent in this entry.The writer regrets if she offends people unknowingly.Another thing to expect is that the writer is a person whose views and beliefs are highly volatile.Who knows,wahahaha,she might get married tomorrow and get divorced the day after.Dun be surprised.So please regard this post as total bullshit.Thank you.
flabbyarms thought hard on 9:46 PM.
